Thursday, July 30, 2009

Head Nod: JIBRI

While googling my head off and researching the world of the plus-sized and fashionable, I came across JIBRI, Jasmine Elder's online-based fashion label for the curvy and style-conscious. The tagline for the label is "dream big," and that's exactly what Elder has done, creating what she describes as "a perfect combination of high fashion chic and urban street sleek in sizes 14-24."

Perhaps the best part about shopping JIBRI is that the line is available on Etsy, an online handmade market, and you are able to send Elder your size request and personal measurements to customize the fit of each piece.

Check out some of my favorite items:
JIBRI High Waist Flare Skirt
High-waist flair skirt, $85

JIBRI Hand Painted Spring Jacket
Hand painted Spring Jacket, $320

JIBRI Satin Swing Dress
Satin Swing Dress, $170

Fast Find: Military Blazer in Assorted Colors

From Alloy, this double-breasted french terry blazer is a great find! You'll appreciate the detail of the ornamental epaulets, back pleats, and high neck collar. Available in red, navy, and black from size XS-XXXL. $44.09-$46.90.

I recommend pairing with a stylish tee and either a skinny jean or dress short. Jazz it up with a sassy shoe, like the gladiator sandal featured below, $39.90 (also from Alloy)!

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Fast Find: Stylish Peplum Tank Dress

This soft grey tweed number has a pleated scoop neck and a tunic-style overskirt that wraps around the back. Comes with skinny black accent belt. Kick pleat, zips in back. It's available in sizes 12-26 for a steal at $64 online at here at Torrid.

Newsreel: Too Fat to be Surgeon General?


Have you heard the news? This woman, Dr. Regina Benjamin, is too fat to be our Surgeon General.

Let's disregard the fact that she's got both an M.D. from the University of Alabama and an MBA from Tulane University, that she served as associate dean for rural health at USA's College of Medicine, or that she was the first physician under 40 to be elected to the AMA's board of trustees in 1995. Forget all the committees and commissions for health that she has served on, that she is the founder and CEO of her own health clinic (which she rebuilt TWICE after hurricane Katrina and a fire destroyed it), or that she was the U.S. recipient of the Nelson Mandela Award for Health and Human Rights in 1998. She's probably a size 12, and that's just not cool.

The controversy stems from the fact that Benjamin LOOKS "overweight," and that she shouldn't be telling other people how to be healthy if she can't be healthy herself. Firstly, I'd like to point out that, no matter how much she weighs, her pounds do not suddenly cancel out her medical degree or her myriad qualifications. And last I checked her weight was not getting in the way of her doing her job. Is she suffering from diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, or any other disease that we believe weight may contribute to (but not actually cause)? Is she unable to walk, move around, or function in her day to day life? As far as I'm concerned, the problem here is with the way Benjamin LOOKS, and not how healthy she is.

If all employers were allowed to discriminate based on appearance (namely weight), more than 50% of U.S. citizens would be out of a job. Should people be denied promotions if they aren't physically fit? Are M.D.'s to be rescinded when a doctor hits a certain weight? Yes, I believe that you should not be hired if you are so physically unhealthy that you are incapable of completing your duties, but that is clearly not the case here.

"We want to influence young people to live a healthy lifestyle and be physically active and eat healthy food," said Lillie Shockney, director of the Johns Hopkins Avon Breast Centre. Acknowledging that Dr Benjamin's weight was not "horrific" or "over the top", she added: "I want an image of wellness [as surgeon general] because young people will hear her better if she is practising what we expect her to preach."

(If weight really does govern a medical professional's ability to dispense health advice, how does Lillie Shockney, left, get off talking about Dr. Benjamin? Doesn't SHE also appear to be overweight according to her own standards?)

Marcia Angell, a lecturer at Harvard University Medical School, told ABC News: "At a time when a lot of public health concern is about the national epidemic of obesity, having a surgeon general who is noticeably overweight raises questions in people's minds."

A doctor commenting on a medical blog said Dr Benjamin looked obese, with a body mass index of over 30, if not a morbidly obese rate of over 40.

One commentator estimated she would take at least a British size 20 in clothes.

Sarah Reed, another family doctor, who said she kept her own BMI at 19, said: "I am disappointed that Dr Regina Benjamin is obese. Obesity is the number one problem in my own practice and I make it a very high priority to lead by example. Although her credentials speak for themselves, her weight cannot be overlooked. Shame on her!"

Seriously? Is there going to be a weigh-in at her hearing? Is the AMA going to measure her waist and slap her on the wrist for wearing a bad Lane Bryant suit? There are so many myths surrounding weight and health, with the idea that a woman of a certain size cannot be healthy or that she lacks a degree of self control. And yes, I understand that the Surgeon General is all about promoting health, but healthy women come in all shapes and sizes.

The F Word

In the writing and research of my new blogging endeavor, I recently came across something of an argument about the word "fat" between two lady-bloggers. Mars, who authors the blog Chicken Dinner Candybar, featured fellow author Marie of Agent Lover in a post she called "Fat Love Friday." The post, written to show love to the fashionable ladies in the larger sizes, obviously offended Marie--because the word "fat" was used. Marie commented on the post, saying, " I have to be honest, I'm a bit offended that you're categorizing me in something called Fat Love Friday."

She went on to tell Mars, "I would NEVER put another blogger or really anyone else for that matter underneath a title with such a negative connotation." But why not? What's the big deal about the F word?

As I'm sure you've noticed, not only have I used the word FAT in the title of my blog, but I've identified myself as FAT as well in my introductory post. It's a word, just like "plus size" and "large" and "curvy" and "rubenesque," and hey, a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. So why, if all of these terms refer to the same type of woman, is that one word--the F word--so very offensive?

I mean, let's face it, with all the in-your-face "skinny is beautiful" media madness, and the constant guilt-trips fatties face with those "love handles that nobody loves" infomercials and news pieces, it's impossible to pretend that you don't notice if you're even the slightest bit "overweight." If you're not a size four, honey, you've heard the word fat at least once in your life.

Marie said she was angry because she doesn't like to put labels on her body, but the truth is that whether or not we put those labels on our bodies, other people are doing it all the time--and when we take offense to them, we're buying into that mess and giving meaning and truth to those labels that we work so hard to fight against.

I like to look at women and bodies through a feminist lens because, as a woman, I feel like women writing about women's bodies is empowering and enlightening. Susan Bordo's take on the female form is especially useful here: "The body – what we eat, how we dress, the daily rituals through which we attend to the body – is a medium of culture." When we buy into that crap everyone is telling us all the time--that only thin is beautiful, that our nails always have to be perfectly polished, that strict maintenance of any and all body hair is essential, that only uber-feminine is acceptable for female bodies--our bodies are not our own anymore. Bordo's analogy of the body as a text of culture makes so much sense because, when we are letting society write its beauty rules all over us, we become a metaphor instead of a person.

It's true: my body is less than "perfect." I've struggled with weight my whole life, tried every diet known to man, and frequently bought into the body shame that is heaped upon the socially perceived "fat." I would forgo parties and beach trips because I didn't want anyone to see what was tucked away beneath my size 16 jeans. I didn't want to call attention to my body, full of flaws. I kept saying, "I'll take that vacation when I lose ten pounds," or "I'll get that tattoo when I've dropped a dress size." And you know what? I was never taking vacations or getting tattoos, and I was always miserable. I would starve myself for weeks, lose ten pounds, and get so fed up that I would go on a weeks-long binge and gain 15 pounds!

Finally, after years of punishing myself and trying desperately to camouflage those extra pounds, I had a realization: my body is just that, MY body. I've reclaimed it, just like I've reclaimed the F word. Your ideal might be a size 2, but mine isn't. My ideal is a body with strong legs and wide, proud hips that aren't embarrassed to knock a chair or two out of my way. My ideal body is one that can indulge in a few slices of pizza without shame, but can walk the half mile to work in the next minute. My ideal is a healthy, curvy, sexy body. Maybe even a fat body ;)

Notions of this socially constructed ideal body are linked with the economy: I mean, so many businesses out there thrive on this desire we have for thinness. In order to create any kind of market for their product they also have to make women feel ashamed about their of inadequate bodies; of course, their product will get rid of those "unsightly" rolls, tuck in your tummy fat, camouflage your flaws, cover up whatever shouldn't be seen. We have to be attractive to be happy and successful, and only thin people are attractive.

I'm not giving in to this, and neither should you. I'm not going to support companies that refuse to make clothes I can wear. I'm not going to spend my money buying earrings at Cache or handbags at Bebe when they overlook me as a consumer. That is part of the reason that I have created this blog: it's so hard being a plus size woman and navigating the world of fashion, as I know from personal experience. I want to make these resources more readily available, to learn more from some of the fabulous plus-size blogs that I am now discovering, and to dialog about the world of the Fashionably Fat.

I'd love to hear what you think! What's your take on the word fat? Where do you like to shop? Let me know!

xoxo Lauren

Monday, July 27, 2009

Newsreel: Plus Size Designer on Project Runway!

Attention! Attention!

Project Runway's Season 6 delivers its first plus-size Designer, Qristyl Frazier. Check out her bio on the show's new Lifetime Website, or shop her designs here.

Fast Find: Chic 50's Floral Dress

From Fath21, Forever 21's Plus Size Line, comes this sweet pink dirndl dress. Through size 14. Available for $22.80 at Forever 21.

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Fast Find: Skinny Jeans in COLOR

East Side in Teal

Skinny Jeans in Teal, Purple, and Fuchsia. Available in sizes 14/16-22/24 at Size Appeal.

Friday, July 24, 2009

Spotlight: Beth Ditto

Ever since I got into The Gossip's sassy, sultry sound in early 2006, I have not been able to take my eyes off Beth Ditto. She is a fascinating, inspiring, beautiful woman, and she is one of Plus Size Fashion's top icons. Let's take a look at her influence in the fashion world and some of her best looks:

"Over the last three years Ms. Ditto has gone from nobody to superstar. She has been hailed as an icon by everyone from women weight activists to gay rights campaigners. She has appeared nude on a glossy magazine cover and has attacked major fashion brands for not selling clothes in big sizes.

Now the fashion industry has decided it can’t get enough of her. The Arkansas-born singer has been a fixture at this week’s fashion events. Whether at Stella McCartneyorChanel, rarely a day has gone by without her sitting in a front row seat at an exclusive runway show." (wsj.com)

What I love most about her is that she's not afraid to bare it all, whether it be onstage during one of her killer concerts, or on the cover of one of the many mags she's graced in the past six years.


Starting with her topless cover on On Our Backs in June/July 2003, Ditto has shown that she's not shy about baring some skin--and I love it!


Since then she has continued to shock (and titillate) with her revealing photo shoots, from June 2007's NME...

...to February's edition of Conde Nast LOVE Magazine. Ditto is getting more glamorous all the time. We've seen her as an edgy rocker chick, and lately we've been able to see her softer side:
beth ditto on the cover of love

This month's issue of Attitude boasts a clothed (though no less sassy) Ditto:

This month also saw the release of Ditto's own fashion line, available online through Evans, offering jumpsuits, biker jackets, and fat girl friendly leggings! Of course, this line is not for the faint of heart, and it requires a lot of attitude, but the dresses are friendly for most any figure.

Says Ditto on her fashion line: "I like wearing clothes, so it made sense." And her fashion makes sense as well. Never afraid to wear something because of perceived "size" limitations, Ditto does not shy away from spandex, excess fabric, or short skirts, which are hammered home as fashion DON'T's for big girls. Some of her best looks include those where she is breaking the most "rules" for plus-size attire:

Here Ditto is rocking a custom-made chiffon gown by Alexander McQueen. McQueen was so inspired by her that he has promised to create a number of designs for Ditto. He said, "I have three words for Beth: heart and soul."

Beth struts her stuff at the 2008 Brit Music Awards in this stunning custom-made tulle dress by Luella. The dress is adorable and it makes her shoulders look great! Besides, that is one HOT color.

Look at these moves! Beth looks like she could kick some serious ass in this lycra number from Johnny Blue Eye's House of Blue Eyes. Curve-hugging and outrageous, it makes her breasts look amazing, and I'm sold on any outfit that will allow me to move like that!

This June 2009 draped Miu Miu dress is the perfect blend of feminine and funky, and Beth looks brilliant! It shows off her arms (with her hot tats!), compliments her fair skin, and even looks super comfortable. The uneven hemline paired with the statement necklace gives this gown an edgy look.


I think what's most important about Beth's sense of style, what makes her a fashion icon, is that she has a great confidence about her and is not afraid to try anything. In fact, it was her series of bold nude magazine covers that got her all those invites to fashion shows. Says Ditto, "It’s funny how something so normal and mundane that you see every day—your body—can be controversial. The shock value is intense. It’s like carrying an art piece around with you all the time. I don’t really care about other people’s prejudices. I don’t take things super personally, unless it’s someone I really respect. It’s really about making an art piece out of what you’ve been handed. It is about being resourceful. When all you have is an ugly sweater-vest, cut it up and make a really cool skirt out of it! When all you have are these really hateful people, cut them up and make something funny out of them."

I am Fashionably Fat

I'm Lauren. I'm fat, I care about fashion (when I'm not too annoyed with the masses of stores that refuse to carry anything above a size 7), and I'm trying to make those few fabulous plus size resources accessible to all of us fabulous fat ladies!

I've been searching and researching for months to find good blogs that would help me along the way: you know, tips on where to shop, what looks good, what's in, and just updates on the plus-size fashion world. But the truth is that there's not a lot out there. There are so few fatty fashion blogs out there (though I've linked you to some amazing ones!), so I've decided to create my own. Love it, hate it, laugh at it; I don't care. I'm tired of my fashion needs taking a back seat to those of my size two friends, and I refuse to let that get in the way of my looking fabulous.